Last Saturday was a warm spring day, and a client who comes every week for a blow dry with one of my most creative and successful stylists arrived wearing short shorts. This woman is trim and usually quite well dressed. Another client pointed her out to me, remarking on what happened when the woman sat down. Her shorts got even shorter, her Hadassah thighs spread, and she looked like she wasn’t wearing shorts at all. I wondered whether all the mirrors in her house were from her waist up. How could she not know that her legs in those shorts would completely destroy her total appearance and actually make her look vulgar? Although her calves were not svelte, they would pass in a skirt or shorts that were longer, at least to the knee.
And if that wasn't enough, this woman has a voice that carries! I mean CARRIES!!! The pitch could break glass, and she isn't subtle about her conversations either. Once she was on her cell phone the entire time she was in the salon, including while she was getting washed, and continuing as she was blown out. Didn't miss a beat! Can you imagine how loud she needed to speak when the water was running and her head was in the sink? Not to mention that her phone could have been ruined. (I would have accidentally soaked it just to get her to shut up.) And then she continued talking with a blow dryer in her ear, but never changed her pitch. Everyone could hear every word she was saying. Another client was going to tell her how rude she was, but I intervened and calmed her down (although I really didn’t want to stop her). This woman holds a very important position in the community. Can you imagine?
Don't women (and men) see themselves? Don't they know that they have strengths and weaknesses in their appearance and their personas? That we can be just as unattractive as attractive in both the way we dress and our behavior? What about those women who are "fleshy" and insist on wearing spandex so that they actually look naked, leaving nothing to the imagination? Gross! Wouldn't a dress or loose slacks and a top be just as comfortable, if not more so? I had a housekeeper who was, let's say, a bit more then Rubenesque. All she wore were clothes that were too tight for her, like she grew out of them two sizes ago. I think that she thought that she looked "sexy." (But why would you want to look sexy cleaning a house anyway?) I remember that one day she had zippered pockets at the breasts of her jumpsuit and they hung where her nipples would be. I thought they were tassels! I was ready to ask her not to wear that jumpsuit again as my daughter might get the wrong idea.
What about those women with camel toes? What's that about? Do they think that it's an attractive look, like a cleavage? Do they think men are going to get turned on by seeing the actual shape of a vagina? And it’s almost always on a woman who is overweight or unattractive. Maybe that’s why they do it--they have nothing to lose. Isn't that uncomfortable anyway? If my balls were being squashed like that I think I would be quite uncomfortable, as well as embarrassed.
It really doesn't take much to look in a mirror and take off what doesn't work. Then again, make sure that you show off your best features. Got breasts, show em off. I don't mean take them out, but wear something that enhances them. Got legs, let's see. Legs always look good in heels but heels aren't appropriate for all occasions. I have a client who has great gams (or at least did when she was younger) so all she wore were heels. Heels with skirts, with shorts, with a bathing suit and I'm sure when she was getting dressed, before she even put on her underwear, she put on her heels. As she got older, her ass got bigger, her skirts got shorter and her heels got higher. If she bent over to put down her handbag, she ran the risk of her ass hanging out from under her skirt. Now that’s a bit excessive! Again, where are the mirrors in her house? Nice ass, flaunt it! In pants or a skirt I mean, not naked, or not pants or a skirt that are too tight. That becomes vulgar and again, can lead to "Camel Toe."
Don't hide behind your clothes. They are intended to make you look attractive. Wear what works and get rid of what doesn't. There is nothing more attractive than not showing the whole thing. Teasing! That’s what low-cut, a side slit in a skirt, a plunging neckline or back is all about. Did you ever go to a nude beach? Not the prettiest sight, is it? Most of the people on nude beaches shouldn't be there. But then again, that’s another consciousness.
As an overweight person, I've been subjected to the credo that some of us should not be allowed to enjoy X, Y, or Z, because that person over there doesn't like how it looks.
ReplyDeleteTo each his own. I would never insist that you change your appearance because I don't like how you look.